By Oanhie “Shinsen” Pham, Assistant Editor
In her bestseller, “Nice Girls Don’t Get The Corner Office,” Lois P. Frankel highlights 101 mistakes women make that sabotage their careers. Mistakes range from what a woman looks like to how they act in the business world. Striving for perfection, obediently following directions, wearing too much or too little makeup, feeding others and exhibiting too much patience can all be mistakes, according to the book.
According to Frankel, a lot of the mistakes stem from women not realizing they are acting in a way that is expected of them: girly and feminine. Frankel gives advice on how to change all of that. The book focuses on how the difference between acting like a girl and a woman can hinder or enhance your career.
Frankel goes in-depth with each mistake, and provides coaching tips on what a woman should do if she finds herself in such a situation. If you find your office space looking like your living room, for example, tone it down (or liven it up if it’s completely bare). According to Frankel, “unless you’re an interior decorator by profession, it doesn’t pay.”
The mistakes and examples given in the book are real; they come from thousands of women she worked with in her nearly 25 years as a coach, trainer, human resource professional and psychotherapist. Input are given by both women and men Frankel worked with around the world.
What I like about this self-help book is that Frankel recommends you not make every tip in her book a goal. After all, you don’t want to be too perfect. It’s a waste of your time. And not everything will pertain to you, anyway.
Also, men shouldn’t shy away from the book just because it’s aimed with the working woman in mind. The mistakes and tips can relate to both men and women. For example, a nod of approval might make you want to not change a certain behavior. So you continue that approved behavior, but that’s all you might ever get — a nod of approval. That’s fine and dandy, but the same behavior won’t give you different (and better) results.
“Nice Girls” is a good book for those who want to know how to be successful in business, without doing too much or too little. Overall, “Nice Girls Don’t Get The Corner Office” is easy and fun to read through; chapters are short and get to the point.