Question:

Dear Sister ECKO:

If you could describe characteristics to look for in a boy for younger sisters, what would you say?

Sincerely,

Sister Clarion

Answer:

My Sister Clarion,

I would definitely tell them that, in my opinion, these characteristics are important: sincerity, respect, trustworthiness, security, intelligence, and enthusiasm.

Sincerity seems self-explanatory, but a lot of girls fall for charm rather than substance.

Respect is absolutely necessary! To have a healthy relationship, he must respect both you and himself. To not have respect would be disastrous and could become an abusive relationship emotionally.

Trust is also necessary — you must be able to trust him. If you can’t, then you will have a relationship filled with negative emotions such as doubt and unhappiness.

Security: not monetarily, although that would be nice. This ties in with in with respect and trust — you don’t want a guy that can’t be secure in himself. If he always has to be by your side, hanging onto your arm, checking your phone to see who texts you, accusing you of a wandering eye because his own physique isn’t good enough — just typing it annoys me. Of course, too much security can also be a bother. Confidence walks a fine line with arrogance, but a guy that has confidence is ultimately more appealing.

Intelligence: I’m not saying the boy you’re talking to needs to have a doctorate, but make sure that he has plans for himself. Even if he doesn’t go to college, he can still be intelligent. Look out for ignorance; that is a surefire way to get under your skin, especially if you feel that he cannot be on the same level as you.

A boy who is enthusiastic is certainly much more appealing. You don’t want a bum lying around, you want someone that is willing to do things with you, try new things with you. He needs to be enthusiastic about any possible relationship with you as well. Don’t try to date a guy that only seems halfway interested in you, because men are transparent creatures — they are only halfway interested in you. At least, that’s the case most of the time.

Sincerely,

Sister ECKO

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Question:

Dear Sister ECKO,

If you could ask our founders one question, what would it be?

Sincerely,

Sister Clarion

Answer:

Hullo Sister Clarion,

I think this is an awesome question. If I could ask our founding mothers one thing, I think it would be:

Are you satisfied with where we are at now?

Sincerely,

Sister ECKO

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Question:

Dear Sister ECKO,

What are some ways that we can strengthen sisterhood?

Sincerely,

Sister Rumour

Answer:

Hola Sister Rumour

I think this is going to sound confusing, but FOCUS. A lot of times, sisters are rushing about, trying to meet aspirations and meet goals. I understand that our sorority is an exceptional organization that always strives to do better, but it has the same sense of a businessman working away from home more and more to make more money to keep the family happy. The family, however, would just prefer the businessman to be home.

Comparing that analogy, I think that sisters should sometimes ease off the other events while focusing on sisterhood. The entire foundation of our sorority is sisterhood, after all. Whenever you ask a person why they want to join, they will almost always say, “I want a home away from home,” or “a second family.”

I’m not saying let’s abolish all events or anything ridiculous like that. The businessman still has to feed his family after all. But even during events, or even working during an event, I have found that my strongest relationships have formed through work. By working with sisters, I have found their determination and passion to be equal to mine, something that we share in common. This underlying bond has created a path for the sisterhood to form, and I still have those bonds today.

I think that keeping sisterhood strong is a simple idea, but a difficult task. Don’t get so caught up in the business. FOCUS on the sisterhood.

Sincerely,

Sister ECKO